Bed wetting older children and teens can become so embarrassed by the problem that it may start to affect their whole personality. They feel they are unable to lead a normal social life, missing out on sleepovers or going away to camp. This causes distress for parents, adding to the worry they feel when they are unable to overcome the problem.
It is more common for boys to suffer than girls, and it is quite common for a bed wetting child to have a parent who also wet the bed. Many children do bed wet occasionally when they are stressed. If it is not a regular occurrence, parents should not be concerned about this, but if an older child persistently bed wets, when he has previously been dry, medical advice should be sought. Most children are dry, with the occasional relapse, by the age of about six. If they are still bed wetting beyond this year, or if you are concerned before this age, you must speak to your physician to check whether there is a physical reason that needs treatment.
Night diapers, with discreet designs, are available for bed wetting older children and teens. It is tempting to use these to save constantly changing bedding, but they will not overcome the problem. It is better just to use them when the child is away from home on a sleepover or at camp. You can arrange for a responsible adult to dispose of the diaper without others being aware.
There are a number of alarms on the market that can be worn attached to nightclothes or the bedding. These will sound or vibrate when moisture is detected. Instead of using an alarm that sounds when he or she has started to bed wet some older children may prefer to wear an alarm/vibrating watch. This can be set to sound at intervals a little earlier than when the bed wetting normally occurs giving the child time to use the bathroom. Even if the child does not always wake in time, using the bathroom and achieving some dry nights will encourage them. A protective mat or night diapers can also used to lessen the risk of mattress damage if an accident should occur.
Although the problem can be frustrating, parents should always try not to lose patience with bed wetting older children and teens.
This article is for information only and the author accepts no liability for action taken. Medical advice should always be sought from your physician.
Margaret Tye runs the Bed Wetting Older Children and Teens website. Please visit for further information.
