The title may mislead you a bit, because this isn't necessarily a guide on how to handle your cloth diaper situation as you travel. That topic has been covered with more security than an all in one on a wriggling baby's bum, and of course there are a plethora of YouTube videos by knowing moms available to you. No, this is a different type of survival guide, because we all know the winter holidays often bring along stress to complement the snowy weather. In the next two months, you're likely visiting relatives, or they're coming to you, and especially if this is baby's first Thanksgiving and Christmas you're going to be bombarded with questions.
Some of them, to your ear, may take on a condescending tone. What are these things? Where are the real diapers? I gotta head to the store to pick up extra napkins, you want me to get some Huggies? Now, if your extended family supports your decision to cloth diaper your child, that's terrific! You can spend more time instead arguing about football or defending why you haven't friended Aunt Bea on Facebook yet. For the rest of you, the second baby needs that first change of the day you may encounter some odd reactions, particularly if you're away from home.
First thing to remember: don't get defensive. Older relatives could be difficult to read - your parents and grandparents likely used cloth, but also could hold the mindset that disposables present a more convenient solution for modern moms and dads. It's not uncommon, either, for a new parent to come under scrutiny by every armchair child expert in the house. People mean well, but it doesn't always come out flattering in speech. If you find the remarks on cloth are misinformed, take a deep breath and defend your position, in a calm and pleasant manner.
The big issue, for some, may boil down to storage. With a wet disposable it's no big deal - you wrap it up and take it outside to the outdoor garbage can, away from the turkey and pie. Cloth covers stay with you, and even though you're prepared with your durable wet diaper bag and laundry materials, non-cloth folks may still require some education. If you'd prefer to keep your holiday visit free from conflicts, it's good to do a bit of preparation so everybody is comfortable and can enjoy your baby.
As you make plans for overnight and lengthy visits to family or friends, let them know in advance that you're bringing cloth diapers and supplies. If your host isn't familiar with how cleaning works (because some people might blanch at the thought of poopy diapers in their washing machine), simply explain what you do with regards to cleaning, including the toilet pre-dunk so they'll know you're not just pitching a load of baby mess into their washer.
If you find there is resistance, however, offer to make a trip to the nearest Laundromat (and get out Google Maps just in case) but also offer a demonstration once you arrive. The big selling point of the cloth diaper is the ease of use as well as the cost efficiency. Show your enthusiasm, and you stand not only to convince family of the good of cloth, but maybe you'll convert a sibling or cousin who is expecting.
Above all else, enjoy your family and the time your baby spends with them. Careful not to overdose on pie.
Kathryn Lively is a freelance writer specializing in articles on cloth diapers and green parenting tips.
